Damn I look good
This is an interesting weight loss blocker as it doesn’t feel like a blocker.
We want to look good.
For many of us, that is one of the main reasons to lose weight.
We want to be able to look in the mirror and like what we see.
We are looking forward to wearing nice clothes, feeling comfortable in a bathing suit, having extra energy, and feeling good about our bodies, so why would that be a block?
One of the main reasons why you may fear losing weight is the fear of unwanted attention.
Society often equates beauty and sexiness with being desirable; this can be a terrifying prospect for some individuals. You may worry that your newfound confidence and appearance will make you a target for unwanted advances or harassment. Maybe you experienced this as a teenager or saw it happen to others and you do not want to deal with this type of attention.
Keeping weight on keeps you safe. People do not look at you in a sexual way. You do not get the wolf whistles or the stares. Your extra padding is like a suit that protects you.
And it can protect you from other expectations too. There is a fat bias in all of us that says that overweight people are not as capable, are not as energetic, maybe even not as intelligent, and therefore others’ expectations of you are lower. This can feel safe, if also annoying. No one is disappointed when we don’t set the world on fire.
Another reason why people may be scared to lose weight is the fear of losing their identity.
For so many years you have been the big girl, the friend who is a bit overweight, the happy one, the jolly one, the one that is always on a diet. Your weight is a core part of your identity, and losing weight may feel like losing a part of yourself. You may worry that your relationships, career, or hobbies will be affected by your weight loss and that you will no longer be the same person you once were.
The Fear of Success
This is a real fear that is not well understood. It seems crazy to worry about the one thing you are trying to achieve, but many of us fear success in all areas of life.
Success in weight loss requires a significant amount of effort and dedication. It is often a long-held desire, that has been elusive for so many years.
What happens after you have lost all the excess weight? You may worry that your success will be short-lived or that you will be unable to maintain your weight loss. So that tricky subconscious says, why to bother losing weight, you will just put it back on, so you might as well not try now.
Or you worry about what will now be expected of you. There are other things that you have talked about doing when you lose weight and now you will have to do them. Maybe it is finding a partner, or having children. Maybe it is a career change that you have thought about. You thought that losing weight would make life automatically easier, but of course it doesn’t actually change anything else. You are still you and will still have to make the other changes, which is scary.
This fear can lead to self-sabotage and prevent you from achieving your weight loss goals.
It’s essential to address these fears and work towards a healthier and happier version of yourself.
Don’t let the fear of becoming too sexy hold you back from achieving your goals. With the proper support and mindset, it is possible to overcome these fears and achieve your weight loss goals.
Remember that losing weight is not just about physical appearance; it’s also about improving your health and well-being. It’s about feeling confident and comfortable in your own skin. Don’t let your fears stand in the way of a healthier and happier you. Take that first step towards your weight loss journey today.
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