I have wonderful 1 on 1 clients who it is my great privilege and joy to help them heal their past and feel ready and able to be all who they know they really are. This past week I have worked with a number of clients who have been carrying pain and hurt from their childhood, and we have identified that this is one of the reasons they are feeling stuck. How can you have a successful business when you can still hear your sister teasing you and your parents wanting you to make the peace? You felt that no one listens to your needs, no one is paying attention to what is really going on, and you are not getting the love and support you deserve. After all, you are the good girl. You try to do everything right, you should be favoured by your parents, and now by your clients, but that is not what is happening.
So many times, we are feeling stuck in emotions in the past. We have been hurt, and often it is pretty tough stuff we have been through. But we are stuck because we just can’t let go. The person has wronged us, the person has hurt us, the person was way out of line. And all this could be true, but if we want to move on, we need to forgive. It is the only way.
I know this sounds tough. How can you forgive? Many of those who have hurt us are not even sorry, and not changing their ways – how can we possibly forgive?
I am not going to tell you it is easy, but I am going to tell you that it is the best feeling. To release all that negativity, and the anger and the hurt. All those negative feelings are stuck inside of you and stopping you. The “they have to say sorry before I forgive them” thought, is not serving you, and they might never say sorry.
When I am working with someone, and I hear the hurt and anger around someone else, my first thought is the need for forgiveness. This might not be what I say to the person at that moment, but I make a mental note of where we are going in the future.
It is a magical experience to watch.
Once we have cleared away much of the negativity and all the feelings of stress, abandonment, pain, sadness and guilt, and shame, what is left is the letting go of the feelings of “this is not fair, and it should not have happened”.
I use a very powerful tool called Ho’oponopono with the tapping. The story of Dr. Len and how he used this to heal a complete ward of criminally insane patients is unbelievable, but I have read accounts of those who have checked the story and found it to be true.
I have never had the need to try it out with criminally insane, but I have used it many times with distressed, sad, and hurting clients who are feeling stuck. It has power.
The words are very simple:
I love you
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
Thankyou
I use this when I have been working with a person who has had a deep-seated issue with someone and has lots of emotions and pain still associated with them. After we have tapped through a number of incidents and brought down the intensity of feelings, I will often introduce this. And the results are powerful.
I use this when I have been working with a person who has had a deep-seated issue with someone and has lots of emotions and pain still associated with them. After we have tapped through a number of incidents and brought down the intensity of feelings, I will often introduce this. And the results are powerful.
It can be very hard to forgive another for the something that they did that was wrong, but the feelings of freedom and relief you get are well worth the effort.
You will be free, you will be unstuck.
The following video is an interview by Nick Ortner talking with Wayne Dyer and his experience of forgiveness using tapping.
Watch it here.